Ok, I got new bearings, a new grease seal for the rear of the rotor, and a new rotor. I used a punch to remove the racers that were already in the new rotor (which were exactly the same as the ones I then put in there, part numbers even matched), put the racers off the new bearings in there using the racers that came with the rotor (it was easier to flip them and use them to beat in than a punch). Used the bearing packer to pack the inner bearing, put it in, put the grease seal in the rear of the rotor, slide the rotor on. Packed outer bearing and slide it on. Cleaned the grease gobs off the spindle threads (I used quite a bit of axle grease), put the inner lock nut on tightened to 35 ft lbs while stopping to spin every 1/4th turn. Backed inner nut off 1/4th turn, then snugged it up again, put washer with holes in it on, then outer lock nut and tightened to 150ft lbs. It seemed just like the same way I did the last one. Everytime I do this the rotor feels tight, like tighter than common sense would think it should be. It takes some effort to spin the damn thing, it's not a free spinner. So I got to thinking maybe I tightened the inner locknut TOO tight all this time and I was binding the bearing and causing it to melt (when I took it apart this time it was literally melted, the rollers fell out like a bunch of marbles). So I took it apart up to the rotor again. Then I tightened the inner locknut to 35, backed off a 1/4th turn. This time I only tightened it enough I could catch a hole on the washer and be able to slide it flush. Seemed like quite a bit more spin to it, and no wobble. Torqued the outer nut to 150 and checked again, seemed alot more fluid. It doesn't free spin when you turn it, but at least its not like having to put some muscle behind it. I torqued past 150 on the outer. Just about an 1/8th a turn I think. I've yet to take it for a ride, but I suspect if there's a problem it won't show up for about a week. I believe I just tightened the inner locknut too tight all these times. I still think it might be too tight, but I'm afraid if I go any looser I'll have some wobble.
Oh and I paid 24 bucks for a brass set of punches with a drift in them. That was a stupid idea. I didn't realize they'd be a one time use only. I bought a cold chisel set after that for half the price that works better. I know the brass set has its uses, but this sure wasn't one of them.
Edit: Driving it now. Seems as smooth as it always does when I first replace them, I'll have to drive it a week and recheck.