i'm worried about my girlfriend. think she would be mad if..

[GBranger04]

FOR a bunch of wheeling wrench heads who argue about boobies vs butts or chuck norris vs Jim Oaks, there is really some insightfull good advice here. pansies But i'm pretty impressed you guys know your shit.

the only thing i would add is try and take some pressure off her and let her know you'll take care of things and you want her to focus on her exams because you know it's important to her.

my girl was stressing like crazy earlier about school and stuff and our relationship was in the crapper but i did that and it seemed to help.

the night after exams.... 4 times
hope it works out the same for you!

 

[crbnunit]

I went through nursing school and had a GF that failed out just like that. I can tell you for a fact she is under a lot of stress. If she already has issues to add to that, if she is working AND going through nursing school she is under a lot of pressure. She needs all the support you can give her. She is going to be depressed, angry, she will use you as a target for her frustration and anger. If you care about her, suck it up and be as supportive as you can. Be aware she will not appreciate it and nothing you do will be enough. If you survive the next few months and she gets past this, she will remember what a beast she was and you will have banked some important points. Seriously, go out of your way to make things easier for her. Cook dinner, clean the house, buy her flowers, help her study and be with her whenever you have time.

 

[Hypnotic Toast]

Speaking from experience with my girlfriend (we've dated for over 2 years), either there is something she wants to tell you but is afraid of your reaction or what it could do to your relationship or she's done something and feels guilty about it.

Believe me, she wouldn't be this anal over those little things, if she is then tell her to deal. Sorry you want some time to yourself every once in a while, if she's doing the same thing then that's her being a hypocrite.

I don't mean to sound so negative but, short of marriage, I've dealt with pretty much any curve-ball life could throw at a couple.

It could very well be the reasons/problems others have posted, stress and feeling under-appreciated cause problems like this. But for her not wanting to talk to you about what's wrong sends up a red-flag in my head about what I posted up top.

 

[turbo cat]

She just needs more cock

 

[Hypnotic Toast]

She just needs more cock

LOL

But seriously, that's awful.

 

[Bryan22]

Man, I have to totally disagree with everyone. It's your life. Do what you want to do. If you wanted to spend more time with her than your family and truck you would've. Don't let a female compromise your agenda. Abviously if you feel strongly enough about her you can compromise. But if you're going to make her the center of your attention just to keep her, that's the wrong move. My life is mine, I do what I want to not what I think will make everyone else happy. If you find the right girl, she will understand you enjoy certain things and love to do them. A woman who is jealous of your hobbies and family is not something i'd keep around. just my opinion.

 

[JohnnyU]

Man, I have to totally disagree with everyone. It's your life. Do what you want to do. If you wanted to spend more time with her than your family and truck you would've. Don't let a female compromise your agenda. Abviously if you feel strongly enough about her you can compromise. But if you're going to make her the center of your attention just to keep her, that's the wrong move. My life is mine, I do what I want to not what I think will make everyone else happy. If you find the right girl, she will understand you enjoy certain things and love to do them. A woman who is jealous of your hobbies and family is not something i'd keep around. just my opinion.

I don't think you really get it, do you? Thanks for playing anyway.


She knows that she is a princess, and therefore expects to be treated like one, trust me. I know....

 

[motohead771]

This is why I dont have a GF. Girls a bat shit crazy and I dont understand their logic very well. Added to that I will be taking 19 credits next semester and Air force ROTC. I wont have much time for girls. I hope some day I can find a woman who I get along with, but until then Ill be fine.

Good luck with your GF. If I was in your situation I would probably just leave her. Not saying thats what you should do. Its just what I would do because I have very little paitence with mind games that women like to play. Im working on that, and once again good luck.

 

[Bryan22]

I don't think you really get it, do you? Thanks for playing anyway.


She knows that she is a princess, and therefore expects to be treated like one, trust me. I know....

Actually YOU don't get it or you wouldn't have to get down on your hands and knees groveling to please your woman. I do what I want when i want and my girlfriend is perfectly happy with it.

here's a great example. My dad has been a mechanic all his life and loves racing cars, he crashed into one little wall at 70 mph. obviously he built the car to protect him in case of this type of situation. My step mom was there and told him "it's too dangerous". now he has about $15,000 dollars worth of telescopes a ford escoort and an explorer. If he wouldn't have let her walk all over him and run his life hed be a happier man racing his car.

 

[Ozwynn]

Actually YOU don't get it or you wouldn't have to get down on your hands and knees groveling to please your woman. I do what I want when i want and my girlfriend is perfectly happy with it.

here's a great example. My dad has been a mechanic all his life and loves racing cars, he crashed into one little wall at 70 mph. obviously he built the car to protect him in case of this type of situation. My step mom was there and told him "it's too dangerous". now he has about $15,000 dollars worth of telescopes a ford escoort and an explorer. If he wouldn't have let her walk all over him and run his life hed be a happier man racing his car.

I have to agree with this, I do what I want when I want........... took Teffie 3 years to get it and be ok with it. i do have to make alot of concessions though, like letter her go to Euprope this summer for a month with her friend nichole.

 

[Big Time]

Reading material, most of which you can download form online bookstores in .pdf format if you want them right now:

The Way Of The Superior Man is one of the best I've ever read. The first half of the book is excellent, but the second half is sort of stupid new-age crap that you can just sort of skim over.

That classic Mars/Venus book

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
(No more Christian Nice Guy is the Christian version)

Some of the dating stuff By David Deangelo is legitimate, but some of it is just plain stupid. Most of the "Alpha Male" stuff floating around out there is very trite and a complete waste of time, but there are one or two diamonds in the rough here and there.

If anyone should PM me their e-mail address, I definitely won't send you any of those .pdf's that I have because that would be wrong. So you may as well not even send me your e-mail address thinking I would send them to you, even though I easily could. We don't want the admins of this site to have to sort out any liability crap.

I'm very sneaky and clever.

 

[gatlin04]

Actually YOU don't get it or you wouldn't have to get down on your hands and knees groveling to please your woman. I do what I want when i want and my girlfriend is perfectly happy with it.

here's a great example. My dad has been a mechanic all his life and loves racing cars, he crashed into one little wall at 70 mph. obviously he built the car to protect him in case of this type of situation. My step mom was there and told him "it's too dangerous". now he has about $15,000 dollars worth of telescopes a ford escoort and an explorer. If he wouldn't have let her walk all over him and run his life hed be a happier man racing his car.

Im going to call BS on you having a GF.... if you do, i feel sorry for her. You seem like you are the type of guy that gives all a bad name.... "ITS MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY BITCH".....
You sound like you have serious control issues....or you honestly DONT care about your "loved one". YOU SIR, need to swallow your pride.....
What has made my relationship so successful is COMPROMISE... I DO NOT get on my hands an knees for her but i do make sure that she is HAPPY.... I do what i want and so does she....

 

[Will]

Im going to call BS on you having a GF.... if you do, i feel sorry for her. You seem like you are the type of guy that gives all a bad name.... "ITS MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY BITCH".....
You sound like you have serious control issues....or you honestly DONT care about your "loved one". YOU SIR, need to swallow your pride.....
What has made my relationship so successful is COMPROMISE... I DO NOT get on my hands an knees for her but i do make sure that she is HAPPY.... I do what i want and so does she....

I have a girlfriend and a wife so I know. And I agree with Bryan22. The relationships where people need each other like in a bad country song (but I repeat myself) are the most turbulent and end eventually. You aren't two parts of the whole really. People change and the parts won't fit forever. A relationship where both people are strong and independent is the best by far. I would not have been married at all if I had to compromise what I do very much. I've been married 13 years I think, 4 kids, no yelling, no moody bullshit and we both do whatever we want. Sure there are compromises, but they aren't made for one person to serve the other. If you end up in a relationsip with a person that doesn't have any interests except you, run away. Find one that has a side activity and you are finding a much more mentally healthy and stabile person. That's the way a relationship should be constructed. If you are going into it with plans to put a sign up over the mantle that says "Two lovebirds built this nest", that's a Disney movie and is unfit for human consumption. In the real world the best recipe for success is not the mingling of two unstable people in the hopes of making one stable one, but in the moving closer together of two stable people. Occasionally you will draw off each other, of course. But we each only get this one life and you really are stuck inside your own head so don't get yourself into a place where you will regret being there.

 

[Bryan22]

wow, im suprised that everyone didn't just bash me. lol. And gatlin, if you read my previous post i did say compromise was part of it, like i'll go see some crappy movie with her and she'll go to a motocross race with me, but will pretty much summed it up perfectly. There's 2 different kinds of compromise, the one i just stated; and compromising YOUR LIFE to make someone else happy. You'd do well to learn the difference. And as for not beleiveing I have a g/f i posted a pic of the two of us in the butt vs boobs thread, so if you really feel the need you can go see for yourself.

 

[turbo cat]

basically my best advice is stop trying to be what they call a "fixer"...someone whos always trying to fix a girl with issues. if she has mentally unstable issues and past issues with depression you may want to think hard about being with someone like that. For example ive been with a couple of women who had bipolar issuez. i had an issue with always trying to fix the situations and make it all better. Oh **** was i wrong....I had to learn the hard way....domestic violence charges galour and a whole summer in and out of the court room over and over again. Not saying that you will lead this path but what im getting at one good point i had to learn thru the manditory treatment classes i had to take for years.....You only have contol over yourself and no one else. You cant control anyone or change them. You bowing down to her is not going to change her issuez. 90% of the time shes going to pull these depression problems back into your relationship over and over again with every problem that happens.

A tthis point you can waste your time trying to fix her but you have to take care of yourself. Sometimes you have to take a step back and ask yourself "is this relationship really healthy for me" ...finding a healthy relationship is the best thing you can do for yourself.

I dont know you or how your relationship really is by its just my opinion that to be with someone who has mentally instable problems, bipolar, constantly depressed, and mostly "NEEDY" its usually not the best thing for your health. In any relationship there has to be some compromise. I compromise everyday in my relationship with my girl. But sometimes I have alot I want or need to get done and she will start with the "when are you going to have tiem for me" I just tell her "I love you but this is what i have to do and you know that" and usually she quickly has a second thought ans says "yeah i know im just being needy" ...well not in those words lol

good luck to you if you trully want it to work with her you need to get her to a counselor or psychologist who may be able to help her. You trying to fix her is going t ocause you nothing but stress, and sometimes more problems.