I'm not sure how the Honda ridgeline got into the conversation but but comparing it to any real pickup is just wrong.They are great for light duty stuff.Thats it. I can tell you this.My assclown for a friend did this to my so called heavy duty E250 over the summer.Bending the input and output shafts and in the end it destroyed transmission with 8k on it.Big lesson learned
2000 dollars later and my truck is still not right.
The moral of the story is two fold.
Don't let friends borrow your truck EVER
Don't be an idiot and think your truck can tow anything unless it says Mack
Looks like your friend bottomed out the suspension. Were you there when it happened? Hard to tell what he was doing to it. I don't think the van's have overload springs on them. But they test all that stuff from the factory. The bumpstops should stop the suspension from loading up enough to do that. I don't know what the dude could have done to break that.
I don't condone towing way over the limit, however, I never felt scared with that load. I had the proper setup, fifth wheel trailer, electric brakes, and an independant rear suspension... oh wait, nevermind, my truck has a real axle with tubes on each side of the differential.
In all seriousness, we have a 2005 2500HD at work, long bed, reg cab that just turned 110K of nothing but towing those size trailers back from Elkhart, IN on a weekly, sometimes daily basis. I shit you not, the only maitenance so far was 3 sets of tires, a new guage cluster, and oil changes. Still has the OEM brakes. I am a ford guy, but that truck is impressive.
Maybe the new trucks will hold up like the big 3, I guess only time will tell.
I just looked up the tow ratings for a 2002 Tundra, it's rated for 5,000.