I got the tranny out and apart. I found out the shift forks were worn ground down for some reason which wouldn't let me push the collar far enough to get into gear. When I drained the fluid it looked like silver milk, there was so much aluminum powder in the fluid it was gritty. The PO had the tranny rebuilt less than 1000 miles ago, it looks like they put shift forks out of a 3.0 or 2.3 tranny in my 4.0, because they werent big enough to fit over the collars properly, but I am not sure. I will have another tranny this weekend so I can compare.
-plumcrazy
All I got was dark cell phone pics of the gear stacks. They looked brand new, the syncros and everything look awesome.