Well I changed the filter. Was not as bad as I thought. My issue was I only had a round drain pan. So once I got it down to the last bolt, and all the fluid had drained over the edge but the whole pan was still full. So I just finally bit the bullet and pulled the bolt. It was not bad, just wiggled it out and poured it into the catch basin.
Long story short. The filter was original AFAIK, the head on the bolt was bigger than the head on the bolt that came with the new filter, which leads me to believe it was original.
The fluid was in OK shape. The O-rings looked fine. I ran my finger all the way around the black gasket on the valve body and did not feel any blowouts of non existance of said gasket.
Cleaned the pan. The magnet was coated with black shit. There was even a drop of black shit in the very bottom round area where the pickup is.
Put in the new filter. New gasket, torqued to 10ft-lb's refilled with 4.5qts and started. Shifted through gears, which I had none for about 20 seconds. Then they came back. Checked the fluid again, it was fine.
Put it in reverse, delay still there......damn!
But, I think the delay going into drive was not as noticeable.
Took it around the neighborhood and it seemed to shift a little better. Probably the clean fluid and better flowing less restricted filter.
I think I am going to unplug the battery and let the computer relearn the shift strategy.
Should I be worried about black shit on the magnet if it's not been cleaned since being assembled?
Edit... When going into gear it is so easy you can't even tell it shifted into drive... unless you hear the engine drop or give it a little gas. I would think when first engaging there would be a noticeable jerk in the driveline..
I dunno.