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Some Advice?


Ferrell

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Perry, FL
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1989
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I've got some problems right now and i need some advice on them, serious life problems and well i was wondering if there was a section for the older gentlemen here to help out the youngsters. I'm 21 and damn well smart for my age but i am not Einstein. Still need help once in awhile.
 
All you can do is lay it out and see what kinda response you get,whats the problem?
 
Here it goes man.

Last year i was working for the local prison and it was working out well until the economy failure hit our town big time, so i got laid off work and since i was not certified at the time, about a week from being there i didn't get unemployment. So it left me in a hard position and i am still there. Had to come home anyways to take care of my 67 year old mother who had 3 stints put in her heart and as small as this town is it's almost impossible to get more work. I've went all over town time and time again putting in applications to the places that still take the good old paper apps, but that's not many places now. For the others i got online all the time and post applications and for this whole year i've had no luck and it's really hurting us here.

Not to mention i used to date this girl i feel head over heels for and well as much as i want to forget her and all the good times we had...i can't. Broke up due to some really stupid things, not on my part but on hers. She wanted to let a 19 year old female friend live with us that let my ex's 16 month old child wonder onto the highway because she had her nose stuck into the computer. Not to mention she also left her used tampons and D**ches, laying on the kitchen counter. Come home one evening from work and she even had a drunk dude there messing around with him. I was not pleased, and when i did confront my ex about it, she picked her over me. Someone who had taken care of her and her 3 kids that was not mine and treated them like my own anyways.

Main thing is all of this crap builds up and the fact that when i was a child i was abandoned by my real mother which still digs deep into my skin. It all is depressing the crap out of me..i've tried to consume myself with other things to keep my mind off of it and it worked for a short time, but it doesn't work anymore. Just don't know what to do anymore, i used to be religious and now i've lost what faith i did have due to all of this. Mom keeps telling me things happen for a reason...well i'd like to know what that reason is...because it's getting old real quick, after dating several women i am starting to wonder if there is ANY decent old fashioned girls out there, and when in the hell will i find one and some more work.
 
i know it's tough to see it this way now,but at your age that type of stuff is just life.look ahead,and(here's the really hard part)be patient.you can't force things to go the way you want them to,but if you live your life to your own standards,things will come when it's their time to.
you never knw when the right girl or the right job will come by-so try not to rush and go with the wrong one first,you'll be pissed when the right one arrives and you are not in a position to take advantage of the opportunity.


i'll say it again-you're young,lots of time for life to run it's course.enjoy the ride,watch the world go by.
 
Yes i am 21 and i will be 22 this coming march.

I know somewhere along the line someone is going to tell me "what the hell did a 21 Yr old want to date a girl with kids for?". Truth being i love kids and i might be 21 but i am not the get out and party kinda guy. I'd rather sit at home with a family. But that's just me i guess. I know i am young and so far watching the world pass by is driving me a little bit insane. -_-* It feels as if each time i do manage to make 1 step forward, i get knocked 5 steps back. Gets to a point where it makes a person not want to try anymore. But somehow i manage to get the strength together and take another beating each day. Just hoping one day it will stop and i can finally rest. But that day won't come til my last day on earth. Just be glad when all this is better and i can get on with my life and stop feeling like i am failing at it all the time. I mean hell i even have bad luck with vehicles. I believe this ranger is my 7th. I keep having to get new ones because i get a good used one and then it starts falling apart around the time i don't have work to repair it so i end up having to sell it. But here is a quick list of what i have had and what happened to it.

First car at 16 - 2000 Ford Contour SE. F-350 took the front end off when he ran the turning lane light as i was coming through the green light. Totaled it.

Second car at 16 - 1990 Honda Prelude. Ran that car until the wheels literally fell off. Axel's snapped when i hit a railroad crossing that i didn't see due to it being a hill. That was my mistake since i was going a little bit to fast. 90mph to be honest. >_> Oops?

Third car at 17 - 1986 Jeep Comanche Pickup. Drove it to a friends house one evening and his dad got stuck in a mud hole in the backyard, so he asked me to pull him out. As i did he snatched his into reverse and pulled me into the mud as well. Now since my friends grampa had a H1 Hummer we figured he would get us both out no problem seeing as it was sitting on 36 swampers with a nice wench. But he didn't want to get it dirty, yeah can you believe that? So he got a front end loader that he didn't know how to drive, pulled my friends dad out then proceeded to push me out. He put the bucket under the frame and ripped the rear axel out.

Forth car at 17 - 1994 Ford F-150 (Big Blue) loved that truck to death. But the engine block ended up getting cracked and some dude wanted the frame. But the truck was old and the man who had it before me failed to mention his son had ragged it out. Con people apparently. So i traded the truck for my fifth car.

Fifth car at 18 - 1994 Ford Escort LX - Good running car and eventually due to insurance and the problems that kept persisting with it, i sold it since all it did was drain my wallet each paycheck. Never want a escort ever again in my life.

6th car at 18 - 1984 Toyota SWB Pickup - Another good running vehicle i had, until one night on the hwy way some ass of a trucker got behind me and did not slow down. I had no space between my rear bumper and his front bumper to slow down or get off the road, only choice i had was to speed up. He had his brights on and no matter how much i slowed or speeded up he stayed right on my ass. Had my ex with me then and she was freaking, called the state troopers and they intercepted us, pulled the truck over and me as well. Driver went to jail, never figured out why he was riding so close and agressive, but that run took a toll on the yota. Engine burnt up and i had to call a tow truck.

Now my final car i am with a 21 after using my mothers old lincoln is this 1989 Ford Ranger 4x4 which i got from my cousin after mom traded him the lincoln. I love this truck and named him after the F-150 i love so much. Since the F-150 was Big Blue i named this one Lil Blue. As far as getting rid of it, not going to happen. If it wears down and don't run, i will fix it up again and make it a play toy and find something else if i have to.
 
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Well said gwaii,You cant just quit because the going is tough..... and sometimes people moving on in your life is best for you.
 
Well said gwaii,You cant just quit because the going is tough..... and sometimes people moving on in your life is best for you.

yup-i went through some of what you've described-and worse-except i was 42 at the time.had to start my life all over again.

that was 5 years ago,and i'm still struggling,and sometimes i wonder why,i just want to bury my head in the sand and give up.

but i need to finish my projects first.then i'll bury my head,unless i start more projects.

i guess what i'm trying to say is that life will kick you in the nuts whenever it gets the chance.all you can do is learn from it,so you know when to dodge it.
there's no magical point where everything just goes easilly.my dad is 71,and he's still going through this type of stuff too.
 
yup-i went through some of what you've described-and worse-except i was 42 at the time.had to start my life all over again.

that was 5 years ago,and i'm still struggling,and sometimes i wonder why,i just want to bury my head in the sand and give up.

but i need to finish my projects first.then i'll bury my head,unless i start more projects.

i guess what i'm trying to say is that life will kick you in the nuts whenever it gets the chance.all you can do is learn from it,so you know when to dodge it.
there's no magical point where everything just goes easilly.my dad is 71,and he's still going through this type of stuff too.

Yeah at times i want to bury my head and give up to. But something keeps me going and i don't know what it is, but it makes me feel like a old steam engine. "I think i can i think i can" and being called thomas the tank engine due to my name being thomas, doesn't help the matter lol. But then again thanks to my last name being ferrell, i get called ferrett all the time. -_-

better than dummy pants:D

I'm a smarty pants to! We must be brothers!

P.S. Added a new section to the second post about all the cars i've had.
 
Failure is a part of trying and at your age you have a lot left to go and thats a good thing........you cant ever quit....EVER!
I'm 45 years old and at one time I have made over 60K a year but I have been homeless at least twice that I can think of because of my own bad judgment and fate alone.
I have been married 3 times before the one I'm in now and I dated her before my first over 24 years a go.
Funny how life works huh?
 
Failure is a part of trying and at your age you have a lot left to go and thats a good thing........you cant ever quit....EVER!
I'm 45 years old and at one time I have made over 60K a year but I have been homeless at least twice that I can think of because of my own bad judgment and fate alone.
I have been married 3 times before the one I'm in now and I dated her before my first over 24 years a go.
Funny how life works huh?

Oh i have so much cursing i could give life at the moment lol. But i have had bad luck since the start..so it does bear down on me at times. I'm chuggin along as best as i can. Just wondering if it will ever end and let me be at a good resting point in life. But the one thing i do hate the most at the moment is freaking farmville. I'd like to find it's creator and drop kick him. -_-" I'm a video gamer at heart and well since i have no money to do my favorite hobby "work on cars" while i am not looking for work, i play video games and man oh man alive. Mom is on farmville 24/7 and it lags everyone elses net so bad lol. But shes old and got nothing else to do so i don't bother fretting over it much. To bad i can't get her to play the things i like...then i won't have to deal with farmville. XD
 

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