I don't change plugs. My wife's car is 9 years old and I did the timing belt when it got to 105,000, but not the plugs. The timing belt I took out looked very sharp and new, which pissed me off. My 4.0 started to rattle and lose oil pressure back in 2001--I pulled the motor, replaced the bearings and oil pump, disassembled and cleaned the lifters, put the motor back together and put it back in. I never removed the plugs and still haven't.
Old breaker point ignitions were crap. The points allowed very little coil saturation even when set properly (which is why dual points were used--they overlapped each other and gave a little more saturation for a hotter spark) and plugs back then had narrow gaps because you had a lot less voltage--especially when they wore the friction surface that rode on the distributor cam. Plug maintenance was essential because any little bit of wear would open the gap enough that the spark wouldn't jump it. Since CDI came around, an ignition spark can jump an easy inch--with points it was tough to get 10,000 volts when there was some use on the motor. Now, I think 60,000 volts is easy. Like I said, my wife's car has probably close to 130,000 on it and I have never even thought about changing the spark plugs. Stripping the aluminum threads or dropping something down the holes is enough of a risk that I will wait for an actual problem before it is worth the risk screwing with it.
If it isn't broken, don't fix it. If it works, leave it alone. I'm always encountering people who break stuff doing 1960's preventative maintenance on a modern car which requires only oil changes--and very infrequent ones.
If I were you, I would pull the head off and stop driving it. It seems like something in there is tearing it up. It's a simple engine, it would take an hour to find out what is going on.