I just got called an

[lil_Blue_Ford]

I would rather she hates me now and thanks me later than loves me now and hates me later......... funny ....... I remember my Sergeant telling me the same thing.

Sergeants usually seem to have a pretty good grasp on what's what.

 

[bigcountry]

Shouldn't that be 2240

To the OP, don't let ANYONE raise your kids for you. You did the right thing in my opinion. I was pretty strict with my kids, they are well behaved and understand that we are a society of rules.

hahaha yea i know but it was easier for me just to type the real time some of us know military time and others dont so to be fair i just typed the real time

 

[bigcountry]

and to the OP i cant stress enough that you are doing the right thing!!! who gives a F*** what someone else thinks in this world we live in now there are way to many people that think that if you are nice to your kids it will pay off and NO it doesnt they will always take advatage of you and they will be so caught up on with their kids they wont even see it. there are to many punks down here that use mommys and daddys money to do whatever they want with their trucks and they can do whatever they want to them cause they have someone who will pay to have it fixed without question it makes me sick!! it gets on my last white nerve! i have to many of them punks that just dont care about there trucks on the trails who tear up the trails and dont think about the other guys that dont have big trucks with big tires gah its sickening

 

[Frank The Tank]

My parents were extremely stern when I was a child...... so when i got older, got a truck started dating....... they knew I had the tools to take care of myself and was capable of making rational, adult, and good decisions. I worked hard everyday of my life on the farm with dad and my brother, and we actually talked about life and consequences.

The grip of my parents slackened enough that I never wanted to rebel. I sure never said, why do you hate me, your so unfair and I never got that under my roof speach. Me and my brother both moved out went to college, got our own places and got jobs, I graduated college, he hasn't yet but he's a great kid and a state worker.

It actually worked out well, because believe it or not... the preacher, judge, and principals kids were on the shortest chains and the worst kids in the school. One was a tramp, one wrecked a truck a week racing and being stupid, and the other was a stoner. She now has 2 kids and no husband or child support, the judges son is a college drop-out working at his uncles business, and the stoner is still living in pops garage.

Do I think I'm better than them because of the way I was raised? your damn right!!!

I say tough but fair, just don't forget the fair part when the time comes, if you do a good job... you don't have to hold your kids hands.

BTW I'd have told that lady where to go, and seriously consider a sterner punishment next time within view of this nosy lady

Frank

 

[Ozwynn]

I think I am doing my kids the best favor I can ...... raising them poor (as in no money) so they have to learn to do things for themselves ......... they earn everything they get so they are learning that everything comes with a price ......

even if we had money I still would make them earn everything get because my brother and I had to do it........ My mom bought us whatever we wanted (that she could afford) but we had to earn it every inch of the way from cleaning the Stalls for $3.00 an hour and to splitting and stacking the winters worth of fire wood ...... this was in addition to normal chores .....

 

[lil_Blue_Ford]

I think I am doing my kids the best favor I can ...... raising them poor (as in no money) so they have to learn to do things for themselves ......... they earn everything they get so they are learning that everything comes with a price ......

even if we had money I still would make them earn everything get because my brother and I had to do it........ My mom bought us whatever we wanted (that she could afford) but we had to earn it every inch of the way from cleaning the Stalls for $3.00 an hour and to splitting and stacking the winters worth of fire wood ...... this was in addition to normal chores .....

I think it's easier to have a lot more respect for things when you have to work hard to earn it. That was one thing that upset me my senior year of high school. I worked hard and although my parents did help in the purchase, it was up to me to make the payments and keep my Ranger, which I got brand new. I was sick when I pulled into the school parking lot the first day I drove and found that despite being brand new, I had pretty much the only vehicle on the lot worth less than $30k. I kid you not. And since none of those kids had to actually earn the vehicle they had (the ones that bought the vehicle themselves were mostly drug dealers - but officially our school did not have a drug problem... ), none of them had any respect for their vehicles. I saw them play bumper cars trying to get parked and get out and laugh about it. Disgusting...

 

[Bulletman]

I have a friend who has a StepDaughter that was "only five minutes" late, repeatedly,,,,,,,,, and now she's going to have a baby in a couple of weeks and she isn't married, no job, no vehicle, no money, no job,,,,,,,,,, and now no college education unless she figures out something.

 

[lil_Blue_Ford]

I have a friend who has a StepDaughter that was "only five minutes" late, repeatedly,,,,,,,,, and now she's going to have a baby in a couple of weeks and she isn't married, no job, no vehicle, no money, no job,,,,,,,,,, and now no college education unless she figures out something.

but-but-but.. i thought our savior obama was going to help single mothers like that?

And yes, I am being sarcastic.

 

[Xandor]

I will say 5 weeks is rather strong. Def getting the point across

 

[pastor bubba]

One of the first times my daughter went out with friends she was about 20-25 minutes late. She was grounded for a week and we haven't had a problem with it since. I worked with youth for 15 years as a pastor and I think their biggest problem is parents who would rather be buddies instead of being parents.

 

[Xandor]

My parents were extremely stern when I was a child...... so when i got older, got a truck started dating....... they knew I had the tools to take care of myself and was capable of making rational, adult, and good decisions. I worked hard everyday of my life on the farm with dad and my brother, and we actually talked about life and consequences.

The grip of my parents slackened enough that I never wanted to rebel. I sure never said, why do you hate me, your so unfair and I never got that under my roof speach. Me and my brother both moved out went to college, got our own places and got jobs, I graduated college, he hasn't yet but he's a great kid and a state worker.

It actually worked out well, because believe it or not... the preacher, judge, and principals kids were on the shortest chains and the worst kids in the school. One was a tramp, one wrecked a truck a week racing and being stupid, and the other was a stoner. She now has 2 kids and no husband or child support, the judges son is a college drop-out working at his uncles business, and the stoner is still living in pops garage.

Do I think I'm better than them because of the way I was raised? your damn right!!!

I say tough but fair, just don't forget the fair part when the time comes, if you do a good job... you don't have to hold your kids hands.

BTW I'd have told that lady where to go, and seriously consider a sterner punishment next time within view of this nosy lady

Frank

So true. All my friends that got treated like they were 5 till they moved out the day they turned 18 arnt doing so well these days. The spring effect, hold down to tight and soon as there loose they go nutz.
I got old friends that got to do whatever they wanted all the time and there doing crapy also. Raising kids if a fine line to balance. I was raised just like you and I'm glad of it.

Just wish I learned to spell better lol.

 

[Ozwynn]

I didn't ground her for 5 weeks ...... 1 week for being late and 1 week because she forgot to feed the cats until I saw the cat bowl at 6pm...

 

[babytruck]

I have 2 year old and already he's figured out I'm the bad guy and momma will let him do whatever he wants. I just did a year in Iraq to make things worse. He's gonna take alot to set right.

 

[Ozwynn]

yeah we went through that too ..... if dad says no mama will say yes ........ no if 1 parent says no and then they ask the other one ...... big time trouble...... so they don't do it anymore.........

 

[babytruck]

Yeah he's still catching on to that! He knows though just pushes it to much sometimes. I guess I'm the kind of dad that would rather he fall down and get hurt to learn that not everything is forgiving. There is always a end result. Mom on the other hand has gotten better about letting him get away with things. I guess I understand being gone for a year and half, he and her were never apart.