I agree with what he said. The uppers are usually the culprit.
On a 4.0 I broke 1 off on the drivers side head. It came out with a little heat and an easy out.
Now, on my 3.0.....while replacing the manifolds, to rid it of an exhaust leak and some rigged exhust setup, I ended up snapping off 2 on the drivers side head. I used PB blaster, and heat from both a propane torch and oxy/act. One ended up breaking flush with the flange. Sooooo.....
The head is coming off. Drill and tap. There is really no way to drill the hole straight with it inside the truck. Down side, time and $100 gasket set. Upside? It's done the right way, and will not leave room for the chance of drilling the hole cocked or ruining the manifold surface, etc. This would only cause more of a headache, and cost me more $$$.
I'd suggest spraying the suckers 2-3 times a day for a week or 2 (yes, seriously)with PB or Castle (or another good brand) pentrating fluid.