ok....
so with a cooler head... my dad suggested since the other non-blue modulator was only 12$, just to try it and see where im at....
so i did... reluctantly... but this time, i forced myself to attempt to replace the modulator from underneath.... which i did... which i really have to say... its easier...
you just have to snake your arm, if its small enough, from the rear by the transfer case to the modulator... then use your right hand to pass your 10mm to your snaked left arm...
super easy and took about 10mins...
but anyways... like i said, i was reluctant at this point... but i pressed on, took the truck to the end of the street, no shift... so i went down another street where i could get on it alittle more to try and see if i just needed to get the rpm's up alittle just for that first shift to let the transmission know that all is good now and lets start working again.
it shifted... ever so quietly...
i was like.... WTF?
put my seat belt on and went one more street over to the main road by my house... it shifted all the way to that main road..
got on the main rood... shifted without skipping a beat...
called my dad and let him know.... 1800rpm at 55mph...
i was ecstatic.....
so i returned the other modulator after driving my truck to autozone...
so all in all... my transmission at this point likes the Non-blued modulator...
i saw posted of other people where 2wd likes the non-blued and 4x4 likes the blued... so who knows what blued and non-blued really is....
i dont really care... its working.... very well... knock on wood....
in 10k miles when this modulator has started to go... i will deffinately be getting the non-blued again...
thank you all for the info and tips...