My Son-in-Law needs help!

[4.0B2]

Hey DG, you've been on my mind today... I'm not sure why so strongly today but I just have words that I need to share.

I hope you're doing as well as you can in this time. I'll continue to lift you and your family up in my prayer times. I can't say I know how you feel, b/c I don't... but I can say we know the almighty God that can comfort you.

Heavenly father, you see the burden on our friend DG's life right now Lord. I pray that by the blood of Jesus his heart is comforted. Lord, we know everything you do is for a reason Lord. We do not question your will Lord. We just ask for your love and comfort and peace to surround the family of the lost. Let things in this earthly life to fall into places that helps the family in finance battles, physical battles, and the battles of angry that the devil places on them. It's in the name of Jesus, we pray... Amen.

John 14:1-4 “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. And you know the way to where I am going.”

 

[straycat]

Yep.......feeln......but I still need to be reminded.....Jesus loves you!


EDIT: annnnnd another thing....I always thought that Christians were just weak and using Jesus as an excuse for what happens----
(well......SOME of us ARE weak and useless and need a crutch---but that doesn't change the fact that God is real and great)

"Ohhhhh we lost the house and the dog, but the Lord took care of us!"

"Ohhhh I lost both legs and one eye in the car wreck but it would have been worse if the Lord hadn't been with me!"

But now I really understand that we have to be like little kids who trust their father to rescue them even when the worse things happen....

The Earth is a rough place to live, but...............HEAVEN DON'T HAVE NO broke bones/old bones.....everyone is made new again by God.

Here, DG. I wrote this for you and your family: I posted it earlier but don't know if you saw it.


R.I.P. Jason
Doorgunner...so sorry for the passing of Jason. A true fighter. Bless all of your family. I put this song together and put it in a poem format for all of you. How many times have all of us sat on a beach, a park, a front or back porch with a special someone and saw the earth as it truly is? Watched a sunset, sunrise, a storm as it approaches? I have done this fo many years with loved ones, family and pets. My family, friends and pets who have passed will always be in my heart. I will never forget any of them.



Come Gaze With Me

Come gaze with me as we look to the Sun
Come gaze with me as we’ve done since life has begun
Every day we watch the world unfold like a flower
We taste the sweetness of a sudden rain shower

Oh, come gaze with me

Come gaze with me as we watch a beautiful newborn cry
Come gaze with me as we watch the sun reach the sky
The warmth from the sun reaches every living being
New seeds have sprouted, we are in awe at what we are seeing

Oh, come gaze with me

The waters of the world rush to the shore
Hold tight the one you will always love more
The stars are so much brighter on a clear night
The beauty of the world is always within our sight

Oh, come gaze with me

Turn your head and behold the beauty
Turn your face toward the sun
A new day suerly has begun

Oh, come gaze with me
__________________

 

[doorgunner]

Stray.....thanks for reposting it.....I read all the posts, but I was probably so "down" that I was numb when I read it. It's a great poem!

As they said in the '60s....."we're gonna hang in there"!

And as a minister told me recently....."Jesus already hanged in there...just keep trusting in him to bring you thru the bad days".

I came back home for a couple days to catch up on some stuff around the house---I'll be going back to my daughter's town on Sunday.

 

[doorgunner]

My daughter couldn't handle living in their house, so we leased a house in our town a couple miles from us for her and the kids to live in until things settle down some.

 

[Mark_88]

Moving your daughter and the children was probably the best thing you could have done under the circumstances. It takes enough time and faith to get through something like this and having constant reminders of the pain, hope and anguish at the outcome prolongs the healing.

Making a fresh start helps us to remember the good things...the good times...so we can cherish the memory of a loved one.

Thinking of you and your family...prayers and good thoughts...

 

[straycat]

Good idea, DG. This will help heal the wounds a bit faster I think. You all will be real close as well.

 

[doorgunner]

Thanks for stopping by and talking with me, Men.....it helps a lot.

She just starts crying....like she did for her brother....

I don't have the heart to tell her that it's going to be like that for the next 5 years /she doesn't need to know it anyway for her sanity (that's how long it took for me to get a grip on crying every day after my son was killed).....

now, it's only a couple times a week---but the broken heart is ALWAYS with me.

Now.....my SON-in-law is added to our broken hearts.

Who would have thought?

 

[doorgunner]

There's a weird thing going on with my brain weid-er than usual.....

My son in law's name was/is Jason.......his son's name is Jadon....

Lately I have been calling my grandson by his daddy's name.

I miss his daddy a lot.

 

[tmcalavy]

Not weird at all...very normal in fact. Hope you and yours are doing well.

 

[simpler=better]

Thanks for stopping by and talking with me, Men.....it helps a lot.

She just starts crying....like she did for her brother....

I don't have the heart to tell her that it's going to be like that for the next 5 years /she doesn't need to know it anyway for her sanity (that's how long it took for me to get a grip on crying every day after my son was killed).....

now, it's only a couple times a week---but the broken heart is ALWAYS with me.

Now.....my SON-in-law is added to our broken hearts.

Who would have thought?

It sucks, but you've got the right attitude toward it all.

Also, it's really really good that you acknowledge that A-it's not alright and B-that it won't ever go back to normal. A lot of people get hung up on 'gah why am I still falling apart' when they really just need to go wtih the flow, sometimes you're sad sometimes you're not. Life isn't a charlie brown cartoon, but it's not a Poe book either.

 

[wildbill23c]

The last few years of my grandmother's life were very difficult. While I was in basic training I was injured during one of our road marches, somehow ended up getting some severe stress fractures in my left foot, tried finishing but couldn't walk on my own. I got sent to a recovery unit, and eventually sent home for a couple weeks. The whole 2 weeks I was home I spent at the hospital visiting with my grandmother. After I got back to training, I was told I could start in another unit and finish basic training that was close to where I had been when I was injured. I said no, I'll go back to the unit I started with, the commander just looked at me in amazement, and said normally people don't go back to the same unit after something happens and they get returned to duty, he says do you mind saying why you want to go back to the same unit. I just said yes, I started there I will finish there. So off I went, they were a couple weeks behind so it was a refresher for some of the training. So as time went on and graduation came up, we had a 4 day family day weekend, happened to be a holiday in there so I got an extra day. Anyhow due to my grandmother's health my family wasn't able to afford to trip from Idaho to Kentucky for family day and graduation. As a result, I ended up just staying on base in the barracks. Then that evening after I had finished cleaning and all the stuff the drill sergeant had asked if I would do, I called home, only to find out that my grandmother had passed away that morning. I didn't know what to do, my mom said you DO NOT come home, grandma said for you to not worry and finish your training then come home. That last week in basic training was the hardest of my life. Its been 12 years, its still hard especially during the holiday times, grandma always made home-made candies, cookies, pies, etc. Since then Christmas, and Thanksgiving have just been another day to me. Like I said its been 12 years, its still not any easier.

I try to think of all the good times, and everything I learned from her. That's how I get through it. Remember the good times.

 

[doorgunner]

Hey DG, you've been on my mind today... I'm not sure why so strongly today but I just have words that I need to share.

I hope you're doing as well as you can in this time. I'll continue to lift you and your family up in my prayer times. I can't say I know how you feel, b/c I don't... but I can say we know the almighty God that can comfort you.

Heavenly father, you see the burden on our friend DG's life right now Lord. I pray that by the blood of Jesus his heart is comforted. Lord, we know everything you do is for a reason Lord. We do not question your will Lord. We just ask for your love and comfort and peace to surround the family of the lost. Let things in this earthly life to fall into places that helps the family in finance battles, physical battles, and the battles of angry that the devil places on them. It's in the name of Jesus, we pray... Amen.

John 14:1-4 “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. And you know the way to where I am going.”

4,0B2.....I guess I was supposed to completely MISS your post until this morning! (I don't usually backtract on my threads!) Thanks a bunch!

And men...I read everything...Youguys are great---downright good advice to help somebody get thru badddddddddd days.....(None of that high-foluting-pyshcological babble...OR You need to get on with your Life-garbage)

I thought that I would have been ready for it, S.I.L. was doing O.K---he had his medical ups and downs but always got thru it.......

he was put on a 2-year-Chemo-maintenance-program.......

then out of nowhere.....EVERYTHING in his body shutdown in 24 hours...the doctors couldn't stop the shutdown!

37 years old! IT SUCKS!!!!!

Thans for letting me rant.

 

[doorgunner]

Hey DG, you've been on my mind today... I'm not sure why so strongly today but I just have words that I need to share.

I hope you're doing as well as you can in this time. I'll continue to lift you and your family up in my prayer times. I can't say I know how you feel, b/c I don't... but I can say we know the almighty God that can comfort you.

Heavenly father, you see the burden on our friend DG's life right now Lord. I pray that by the blood of Jesus his heart is comforted. Lord, we know everything you do is for a reason Lord. We do not question your will Lord. We just ask for your love and comfort and peace to surround the family of the lost. Let things in this earthly life to fall into places that helps the family in finance battles, physical battles, and the battles of angry that the devil places on them. It's in the name of Jesus, we pray... Amen.

John 14:1-4 “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. And you know the way to where I am going.”

I read it again .......and the poem that straycat wrote....and the other good things that members said....it made me feel better about things.

 

[4.0B2]

You know we are all pretty much family now DG.

 

[doorgunner]

You know we are all pretty much family now DG.

Yep.......4.0B2........thru thick & thin.........and real thin!

Thanks!