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First, my apology for not connecting sooner. I just read this entire post. Just don't know how I missed it. That being said, it brought tears......
I offer my most loving condolences and prayers for you and your family.
I lost my mother to pancreatic cancer on Thanksgiving day in 1987. She had survived breast cancer 5 years earlier. Can't do much about that one. Like you, my father-in-law who was in theater in the 60's and handled agent orange, died from cancer in 1989. They never could pinpoint the cause. It was all over his body. There was nothing they could do for him. Go figure. Fortunately we were able to be there a few months before he died with our two children, his first grandchildren. Then my mother-in-law got cancer and passed away just before Christmas in 1990. Fortunately my wife was able to be there for her last month taking care of her.
On a more positive note, my wife dodged the bullet. They found some spots on one of her breasts. They were able to do a needle biopsy on one location that came back negative for cancer and pre-cancerous cells. Couldn't get to the other one so she had to go under the knife. They took out a chunk and I mean chunk. It also came back non-cancerous with no pre-cancer cells. I thank god every day for that result.
The period of 1987 to 1990 were real tough years. But you always know your parents will die some day. But, you just don't expect it to be a child of yours. I suspect nothing can compare to loosing a child or in your case a child and son-in-law.
Again my condolences. Hang in there. Things will get better. Focus on the grandkids. They are the legacy that you must nourish, love and respect.
I offer my most loving condolences and prayers for you and your family.
I lost my mother to pancreatic cancer on Thanksgiving day in 1987. She had survived breast cancer 5 years earlier. Can't do much about that one. Like you, my father-in-law who was in theater in the 60's and handled agent orange, died from cancer in 1989. They never could pinpoint the cause. It was all over his body. There was nothing they could do for him. Go figure. Fortunately we were able to be there a few months before he died with our two children, his first grandchildren. Then my mother-in-law got cancer and passed away just before Christmas in 1990. Fortunately my wife was able to be there for her last month taking care of her.
On a more positive note, my wife dodged the bullet. They found some spots on one of her breasts. They were able to do a needle biopsy on one location that came back negative for cancer and pre-cancerous cells. Couldn't get to the other one so she had to go under the knife. They took out a chunk and I mean chunk. It also came back non-cancerous with no pre-cancer cells. I thank god every day for that result.
The period of 1987 to 1990 were real tough years. But you always know your parents will die some day. But, you just don't expect it to be a child of yours. I suspect nothing can compare to loosing a child or in your case a child and son-in-law.
Again my condolences. Hang in there. Things will get better. Focus on the grandkids. They are the legacy that you must nourish, love and respect.
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