the powers that be are on my side today, holy smokes.
i was using the shifter knob open as a way to fill the new correct fluid in the trans. i forgot that the truck was in gear and only remembered as the shifter boot pulled the ball part that goes into the transmission, as i was removing it.
obviously i couldn't get the shifter to drop in properly and we were locked in gear. i eventually got to the point of taking a long flat head screw driver and rummaging around in there with a flash light. well, i stumbled upon being able to pop a little dowel, or pin, and then got something to move around in there, wallah, i managed to slip the pin for first gear and get whatever it is down there to fall into neutral.
we're in business. hopefully this helps someone else down the road.