There are also 5 pin SPST relays, you have to be careful, you can't just grab a 5 pin relay...There should be a diagram on the relay itself, if a line is connecting 87 and 87A together, then its SPST, if the line is going between 87A and 30, then a dotted line to 87, then its a SPDT....As far as factory location of the relay, I would guess the firewall in the engine bay, but I wouldn't be surprised if I was incorrect. If you are making your own wiring harness for the dual tank setup, you can locate it where it is convenient for you...
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