You've definitely got a big leak. Showing up that well on the crossmember, I'm surprise it isn't pretty obvious where it's coming from on the engine.
It could also be the intake itself, IIRC there is a coolant passage that passes through thefront of the intake.
In my experience, and I've done head gaskets on a 4.0 a bunch of times over the years (~7 times over 15 years, that's why I just went 5.0), the lower intake does have to come off. There are dowel pins in the block that positively locate the heads. While I haven't actually tried to pull the head with the intake in place, I'm pretty certain that the angle of the intake and the dowel pins trap the head in place.
Even if it were possible I wouldn't attempt it. The intake needs to come off to properly clean the gasket surfaces and reseal it to the head during reassembly. You are not going to get the intake to head gasket in place and sealed trying to do it with the intake in place. Either it simply wouldn't go, or you would damage the gasket leading to more leaks. If it were possible, you would potentially cause more problems than you would fix and be right back in there replacing intake gaskets.
Also, after the head is installed, you need to run a bead of sealant across the seam where the head and the block meet to seal them to the intake when it is set in palce. The sealant basically fills the small gap where the head gasket, intake gasket, and china wall gasket meet and be a source of oil leak if not done.
Sorry for making such a long response to say: Avoid the headache, pull the intake.
PS: FWIW, I'd grab a head gasket set tha tincludes all the intake gaskets, and do both heads at the same time.