Removing relay connects

[Jonny Jekyll]

I don't know the proper term for the port where relays plug in, but I need to know how to remove that particular spot where my starter relay goes. There is no power to it but the wire from the harness below has been tested to be fine. A friend improperly connected my starter wire and when I found that as the problem it was too late, the wire from the starter faulted and there was a spark where the relay goes. Ever since then there had been no power inside and it won't start.

 

[franklin2]

Is this the 2002 with the 4.0? Can you take a picture of what you are talking about? Is this a small relay in a fuse box or a large solenoid?