I am not fond of auto hubs for several reasons. With manual hubs you turn a switch and it's in. With auto hubs you have to pray and then sacrifice a choice bull to the 4x4 gods and hope it engages.
I also have gotten in the habit of locking my hubs to hold the front drive shaft still while I break the bolts loose. I have found that even turning the front drive shaft the whole way around to get at all the bolts is difficult with auto hubs because they keep engaging (mine actually work) and keeping the dive shaft from moving.
If I had the parts on hand or the money to go buy them my truck would already be back to manual hubs, but I have neither and I am willing to live with them for now to have the bigger brakes of the D35.
The only place that autos really have the advantage is in wear and tear on the front end. It's hard on the axle shaft U-joints to operate at such severe angles as are achieved during turns. Autos engage automatically (on paper anyway) when the front shafts start to turn and then can be disengaged by backing up a few feet. That way you don't have to stop, get out, and unlock them.
Sounds like your dad's buddy is just lazy.