I work a lot with insurance companies since I'm a receptionist at a family practice in MA. Here's my take.
Insurance sucks, but it's damn good to have when you need it. They are going to try and get out of paying because it's a business and they want to make money too. Fight them long enough, and you can get them to pay. It just depends on if you want to take the time to work with them.
To the OP, you need a better plan and you need to READ the plan. You obviously have no idea as to how your plan works. People often choose the "cheapest" plan they can; the problem with this is that they have HUGE deductibles for average claims like sick visits and lab work. You save money monthly on a low premium, but you will pay for it when you get sick. READ your plan and make a decision based on your needs. Don't ever just sign up for the cheapest plan without carefully considering the consequences.
To AKBroncoII, it might be better for you, but when those doctors waive their fees, they are not getting paid one cent for the time spent with you. Multiply that by a couple hundred, and it gets out of control and totally unsustainable. Good doctors are not out to make a killing, and deserve to be paid well after all the school and training they went through to help you get better. The problem lies with people that go to the doctor that don't really need to see one. As stated before, there's a fear factor that drives people to see their doctor when they really don't need to.