I am reading that as "Don't use 95TM heads (or newer ones) on a 95-96 Aerostar" and that it only applies to those two years of Aerostar vans. And that would make sense given that those two years of Aerostar engines would have had the shallow dish pistons, add the fast burn heads and you've got a fairly high compression engine. I think that's where they made a mistake with one of my 4.0's, it was a 94 short block but someone put 98TM heads on it and it would ping under almost any load, even with a full tank of 91 octane and added octane booster.
I guess I'm just not seeing why 95/97TM heads and deep dish pistons wouldn't work for you after reading all that, compression ratio being close to what it was in 1991 would be the main thing in my mind. Obviously I do not build engines for a living so I would sure like to pick Mr. Anderson's brain on that topic - what causes those engines to melt down, is it simply detonation from high compression & low octane, or is it some little detail programmed into the ECM that messes with the timing or fuel or something, IE, a software problem?