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[mikkelstuff]

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   ClarkIn Maximum Overdrive
   Messages:2,986Location:Brighton, Colorado
   

   Lost my lovely wife on Monday after a five year battle with ovarian cancer later complicated with MDS bone marrow cancer. Still a great relief. I did not know the dying process could be so long or difficult. Greatful for Hospice care.
   
   Liz and I met right at 49 years ago in 1976 as new active duty Army Lieutenants - just as I purchased my new '75 Ranchero GT. She was the first woman to ride in it with me. Also the last.
   
   The Army split us - her to Germany and me to Redstone Arsenal, Alabama. Still we remained friends over the years with four bad marriages between us.
   
   With huge luck I met her again on a business trip to Denver in 2013. The rest is history - 11 years together, 6 years married.
   
   Do make sure your women know the warning signs of ovarian cancer, usually none until stage 4, the silent killer. Come mammogram time, they should have a check for the CA125 blood indicator - like a PSA for men. The CA125 is not definitive for ovarian cancer but a high value means something is wrong. Most insurance will not cover a CA125 without a doctor's order because, as Liz always said, they are just women.
   
   Still have the '75 Ranchero GT and now my Dad's '02 Ranger - but will miss her terribly.

 

[sgtsandman]

@mikkelstuff Doing a buddy check. How are you holding up?

 

[mikkelstuff]

Holding up? Comes and goes but appreciate your asking. Then sh*ty stuff happens.

The house was all paid for when I reconnected with Liz. She had also willed all her assets including the house in trust to her daughter. Fine by me since I never made any house payments and I agreed to a pre-nup to that effect since the wife had been burned by her past husbands.

The Will allows me to stay in the house for one year paying for half the taxes and insurance which I had been doing anyway - plus all the usual monthly house expenses like power and water. After one year I can stay provided beneficial to both me and the daughter.

Over time I have invested a million hours and some cash in house upgrades (but that probably does not count).

Now the daughter, as I was warned by the wife's two sisters, has greed in her eyes as she inherits the trust. She is already talking rent after the one year is past!

Geezus! First I lose my loving wife. Must I now lose the house she so lovingly decorated to her every wish? I know the daughter doesn't give a damn about any of this. Five years of chemo, doctors, and hospital stays with no sign of the daughter. Just figures.

Just wish I could buy the house but way beyond my means with my ex-wife getting half of my retirement.

Well I've seen it all before. Death brings out the greed and ugliness.

 

[sgtsandman]

Sorry to hear that. Family can be some of the worst people around. It doesn't matter if they are blood family or via marriage. I just hope you can get it figured out before you get the boot.