Since nobody else has answered, I'll throw in my two cents worth. I haven't done this, but I thought I might have to on my '02 4x4 AT (fortunately, now it looks like it's not going to be necessary). Here's what I came up with:
Remove battery. Remove driveshafts. Unplug oxygen sensors (x3). Remove Y pipe with cats, and next piece back with rest of cats (this won't come out until you drop the cross member). Disconnect shift linkage and electrical connections to trans and xfer. Remove cross member, with jack under trans. Remove starter. Remove torque converter nuts (4) thru starter hole. Remove trans/xfer assy, but leave on jack under truck - a couple of inches back is fine. (Much easier to remove bellhousing to engine bolts with cross member out!)
Remove intake air hose. Remove radiator and hoses, along with heater hoses and radiator fan. Disconnect engine wiring, mostly along left side. Disconnect vacuum lines from manifold, EGR, and heater valve - be careful as they crack easily. Remove brake booster vacuum line. Unbolt A/C compressor and lay aside - hopefully not necessary to evac A/C. Remove P/S pump and reservoir - may be able to lay aside without fully removing, but I suspect you'll have to disconnect the lines and get it all the way out.
Finally, unbolt motor mounts and lift engine out. Not sure of lift points - if probably use straps around some of the brackets in the front, and on a couple of bellhousing bolts in the back. Keep in mind that there's an oxygen sensor plug between the right side of the block and the firewall that needs to be pulled loose from the block.
I've probably missed a few steps, and there may be some interferences that will require you to remove other engine accessories it other things in the engine compartment. Proceed slowly, take lots of pictures, and label everything you take off (usually that's my downfall).
It may be possible to remove the engine without pulling the transmission first, but I don't think it's any extra work to pull the driveshafts and the wiring versus fighting to get to the bellhousing bolts out with the crossmember still in place. It'll also make the reinstall easier.
Hope that helps. It's a pretty basic overview.