You live in a different state than the title, so that is going to make it very difficult. I was in this situation one time in Va, but the car was titled in Va. The guy I was buying it from had a garage (had a car repair business license) and he went to the DMV and requested a mechanics lien. The DMV sent a letter to the last known registered title holder, and they had 30 days to respond. If they do not respond in 30 days, the garage goes to the DMV and gets the title in their name and then they can sell it. In my case, it was a old 57 chevy 2 dr hardtop, and hadn't been registered since the 60's. The guy did show up, but was too late and even offered the garage guy more money, but he kept his word and sold it to me, the other guy had gone past the 30 day limit.
If you know any guys with a garage business, they may be able to help you out.