I see many old people in my travels and often wonder where they were in their lives...the loved ones that they have who may neglect them in their old age or those fortunate enough to have children and grand children to comfort them. I wonder about their service during the many wars and peace keeping activities they may have participated in and whether they saw action.
I've never served in an armed forces role due to my wonky hearing and at times am grateful for this exclusion. I know for sure I would have gone to the places they'd send me and know for sure that I would feel a bit of fear that something might happen to me or my friends.
On Memorial Day or Remembrance Day I like to attend the service held in whatever town or city I'm in and reflect on those who served and lost their lives. I see the survivors as they stand solemnly at attention with heads bowed in respect for the friends and relatives they lost and I feel their loss, try to imagine their torment. I also try to imagine their determination to make it home and to win that war even if they have to pay the price.
People who serve and go through those feelings, emotions and loose those around them, see their friends and buddies breathe their last, or anguish over a friend who will never return...they died a little over a long period of time.
They came back as different people...reborn, in a sense, as people who survived. So, to me, these memorial services also honour those people. They are the ones we carry on with...survivors...the ones who want us to remember those who died for our freedom, their friends and family members, more so than the politicians who offer the lives of their citizens in the great travesty of "civilization".