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That's a very important thing to have there Sno, a purpose, once we lose all that we get rapidly and totally lost
 


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That's the other thing. What am I working for? I'm a single guy no kids no wife. I do have a dog he helps. Always around to play and chew on me when he's bored. (He's only 2)

That's a hard question to answer. What are you working for? Well that is if you don't have a family to care for.
 

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That's the other thing. What am I working for? I'm a single guy no kids no wife. I do have a dog he helps. Always around to play and chew on me when he's bored. (He's only 2)

That's a hard question to answer. What are you working for? Well that is if you don't have a family to care for.
YOU! You’re working for YOU! So you can have a roof over your head, so you can have food on the table, so you can have clean clothes. At this stage in your life... everything you do is for YOU.

One day that can change. You’ll meet someone and maybe have kids. Then everything you do is for your family. That’s a different chapter... stay in the present and find what makes you happy.
 

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I'm with you. But at first I can't look at that its gotta be just doing one thing consistently get up same time everyday.
Then slowly add to that....
 

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YOU! You’re working for YOU! So you can have a roof over your head, so you can have food on the table, so you can have clean clothes. At this stage in your life... everything you do is for YOU.

One day that can change. You’ll meet someone and maybe have kids. Then everything you do is for your family. That’s a different chapter... stay in the present and find what makes you happy.
This. and once you get the "you" part mastered, working for a wife/ kids will be much easier. As I said earlier, make it step by step, write it out if you need to, and don't worry about the things you can't change or have no control over.

It will also help focus yourself by helping others, one big and easy way to get rid of anxiety or depression is to help other people. volunteer at a food bank or homeless shelter. it will take your mind off of your worries and will make you feel better at the same time. it will also give you a better understanding that you probably are not as bad off as you think

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I have dealt with severe clinical depression for almost half my life. I have had a handful of anxiety attacks, and suicidal thoughts are often regular. I've got a lot of advice, so I'll try to keep it short. Some of what I say might've been said already, but just to reiterate..

You can't dwell on your condition, it will eat you alive. It's natural to think "why me?" but I have found this kind of thinking to be very detrimental. The best thing you can do is find what causes these feelings, and address them. Find things that make you feel better, it will take awhile but once you have a handful or two of things it is easier to deal with.

Physical exercise helps, I lift weights but that isn't everyone's cup of tea. Calisthenics, running, biking etc. It helps.

Goals. It's important to have something to work towards, be it a better job, a hobby, whatever. It gives you a sense of pride when you meet them.

Sleep. I have found the later it gets, the worse my condition gets. So even though I get home at 7:15pm, I'm asleep by 10. Even though it can be hard, just getting enough sleep helps.

Lastly, keep in contact with friends and family. You'll want to shut yourself in, but that's a trap. Get out and talk to people, have friends over, you'll feel better.

When you are overwhelmed just remind yourself to breathe, and take it one step at a time
 

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I don’t like to talk about my issues. But if someone else finds comfort in feeling they aren’t alone. Then I will speak.

anxiety/depression. I wake up in the morning nervous about driving to work. Thinking about possible scenarios. When my phone goes off I assume the worst. I go throughout the day, wondering wondering if I’ve upset anyone. Constantly worried if I offend anyone. Constant flashbacks to things I’ve said in the past. Overthinking everything I’ve done. Constantly trying to watch what I say. Wondering if people like me or not.

if I sit in silence. My brain wanders into the unknown. I’ve plotted my death. I’ve written the letter in my head. I’ve thought about how other people would feel without me gone. If people would be sad. If people would be happy. Do I mean anything to anyone? I’ve been in my car. And driven to a place in silence. Not even remembering how I got there.

at night I lay in bed. Usually surfing YouTube. Or browsing TRS. I start dozing off. I finally decide to go to sleep. I shut my eyes. And now the brain kicks into overdrive. My chest gets tight. My heart beats. I think about having a heart attack in my sleep. Sometimes I get a song stuck in my head that won’t go away. I think about things I’ve done wrong in my marriage. I think about mistakes I’ve made in my life. I get anxious for work the next day. What happens if I lose my job. I think about my next heart procedure. I think about my parents and there health. I’m planning my moms funeral as shes getting sicker each day.

I admit. My life isn’t as bad as some others. But believe me when I say that I understand anxiety and depression. And I know it can literally eat you alive. It can kill any passion you once had. It can cripple you. It literally slowly kills you. I’m with you my friend. I understand and support you.
 

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It does feel like you have no life on 2nd. Just work/sleep/work and on the days off rest up more if you didn’t sleep enough during the week. Im on a 4-10 hr days 2nd. start @4 and clock out at 2 am. wish I could go right to bed when I get home but Is usually at least 4 am, back up by 11 to have some food, do laundry/dishes, text the g/f on her lunch break and then make my lunchbox up for work and try to get a hour or two nap back in before heading off to work. It almost feels like I work 2nd and 3rd. The 3 day weekend doesnt feel like much, I’ll spend half of friday in bed and most of saturday afternoon out cold in the recliner. I really dont like my job that much but theres things I want and debts that still need paying. We just got a escape 2 months ago and Im wanting to get it paid for early. My rent is outrageous and we want to either buy this place or purchase something else that will be ours eventually. 2 weeks ago I hit the big 5-0. My daughter has been with a guy for almost 2 years and they are about to get a place of their own. Ive been wondering just where did the time go, Ive got a terrible time perception. Maybe it because I prefer and usually drive older vehicles, I listen to 80’s music and just recently had to give in and get glasses. Oddly enough my greatest comfort is the dog. Always glad to see me, never judgmental, a good listener and companion. Sure things are fine with my g/f, but I only really see her 3 days out of the week and Its does feel like I live alone sometimes. Maybe 1st shift would help.
 


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